A SEXPERT has revealed why men ghost women after having sex – even if you’ve made them wait.
Relationship guru Nadia Bokody shared how she has a history of dating men who don’t text back after they’ve had sex.
She said she took this fear into her new relationship, and panicked after having sex on the first date that her partner would write her off as “a frivolous night of fun”.
Nadia wrote on News.com.au: “Relationship experts tout the ‘make him wait for intimacy’ tagline for good reason.
“The reality is most women who’ve found themselves swept up in the heat of the moment have waited for a text the next day that’s never come.”
Nadia pointed out that TV show host Steve Harvey created his ‘90-day rule’ in his best-selling book, which instructs women to make the guy they’re seeing wait 90 days for sex to improve their chances of securing commitment.
But Nadia explained the reason why even this strict method doesn't always work.
She continued: “Men go silent after sex because we teach them to view it as transactional, and don’t raise boys to have the same kind of expressive communication as girls.
“While scoffing, ‘Boys don’t cry!’ and ‘REAL men are tough and strong’, what we ultimately do, is perform a kind of emotional castration on boys.
“It’s little wonder the term 'post nut clarity' has taken off in recent years.
“Defined by Urban Dictionary as ‘the immediate clear mindedness or soberness an individual gains after orgasming,’ it’s a non-scientifically proven condition which largely exists to excuse away men’s poor post-coital behaviour.”
Nadia continued that some friends have said she has slept with a guy too fast and that she didn’t make him “earn” it.
And one of her male friends admitted that men sometimes see getting a woman into bed as a challenge – and labels this as a form of sexual coercion.
Nadia said that women sometimes ghost men after sex but this can be because they fear retaliation.
Nadia wrote: “Though we like to treat sex as something that’s distinctly different for each gender, the truth is, we’re far more alike than we care to admit.
“It’s the culture we raise young men and women in that causes us to behave differently when it comes to sexual intimacy.”
Previously, sexpert Nadia Bokody reveals the common lie told in the bedroom which is ‘hurting women’.
And a sexpert shared the four mistakes we’re all making in the bedroom and why you need to focus on ‘afterplay’.
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