DEAR DEIDRE: ON our wedding day, I vowed to always tell the truth. So when I kissed someone else on a night out, I knew I had to tell my wife.

But now she says she can’t trust me, even though I’ve been 100 per cent honest.

I’m 45, she’s 43 and we’ve been married for 15 years.

It was a moment of madness. I’d had way too many drinks when I was on a golf day with my brothers, and so played up to a woman’s intense flirting.

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We ended up snogging in the smoking area. Neither of my brothers saw, so I could have kept it to myself, but I knew the guilt would eat me up.

The following day, I told my wife the truth. Now she’s forcing me to sleep on the sofa. How can I make things right?

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DEIDRE SAYS: You told your wife to relieve your guilt. You didn’t consider how that would make her feel. Did you expect her to only feel gratitude?

It’s no surprise your wife is still questioning if she can trust you – you were unfaithful. It will take time to rebuild her trust.

My support pack Cheating – Can You Get Over It? can help.


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Facing this with an expert will help prove to your wife you want to repair the damage.

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