I lose my erection as soon as I try to put on a condom – am I scared of sex? – The Sun

DEAR DEIDRE: THE first time I tried to have sex was a real flop and it has left me too traumatised to risk trying again. I lost my erection when I tried to put on a condom.

I am 28 and still a virgin. I met a girl four years ago and we got on great, she was keen for us to have sex.

We started kissing and I was immediately aroused, and I could tell she was happy to see me like that. Then I tried to put on a condom and my erection went soft and we didn’t get to have sex after all.

There have been a few other times when I’ve met someone and thought about trying again but I know what will happen.

I think I need an escort, a woman who is experienced, to have intercourse with me the first time so I can overcome my fears and be able to have sex using a condom.

DEIDRE SAYS: Paid-for sex is not at all like sex with a partner you care for and who cares for you.

It could end up making you feel worse.

Practice putting on a condom alone so that when you next want to have sex with a girl you will feel confident.

Then wait to have sex with a partner until you are with someone you feel comfortable with and can be honest about any nerves – which in itself will relieve the anxiety.

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