DEAR DEIDRE: I MOVED 300 miles for my new job, uprooting the family with a promise of a better life.

Sadly, nothing is working out. I hate the role, and my wife and I are arguing more than ever before.

I have no friends here and feel trapped.

Apart from my children, there is nothing for me. My only option would be to move back north, where I originally came from.

But my children are only two and five. I can’t just get up and leave this marriage.

I would look so bad and I’d miss my kids too much – so I’m stuck.

My wife is 39 and I am 43. We have been together for eight years.

I am sick of pleasing everyone else and feel that no one cares when it comes to me.

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I’m having lots of bad days and I’m aware my moods are affecting the children.

I want them to have a happy dad, not a miserable one.

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DEIDRE SAYS: First, try to work out the root of your unhappiness.

It sounds as if you were hoping this move would be the solution to your issues.

A shiny new house and job may offer a short-term distraction, but it won’t solve relationship issues or a deep-rooted unhappiness in the long term.

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Share your feelings with your wife and talk about how low you are. Ask to work together on finding solutions.

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