Women open up about their VERY real struggles with motherhood

The real struggles of motherhood: Women share their personal battles to show others it’s ‘OK to not be OK’ – from ‘big cries in the shower’ to feeling isolated even when ‘surrounded by people’

  • Channel Mum members shared video clips detailing their struggles as mothers
  • Charlotte Taylor, from Cheshire, admitted she does her ‘big cries’ in the shower
  • Holly Matthews, who lost her husband to brain cancer, cries in front of children
  • All woman bravely shared their stories to mark Mental Health Awareness Week

Brave women have opened up about their struggles with motherhood to urge other mums not to suffer in silence as part of Mental Health Awareness Week.

In a video compiled by Channel Mum, entitled It’s OK To Not Be OK, they discuss and challenge the pressures many mothers feel to always be happy and positive and not let their children see them upset.

Mother-of-two Charlotte Taylor, from Cheshire, admitted she does her ‘big cries’ in the shower because ‘no one can see and you can wash it away afterwards’.

She added that she also does a lot of crying on her other half’s shoulder, and sometimes hides in the car after doing the shopping to enjoy five minutes to herself.

Mother-of-two Charlotte Taylor, from Cheshire, admitted she does her ‘big cries’ in the shower because ‘no one can see and you can wash it away afterwards’. She added that she sometimes hides in the car after doing the shopping to enjoy five minutes to herself (pictured)

Meanwhile Holly Matthews, from Newcastle, who lost her husband to brain cancer in 2017, told how she prefers to cry in front of her two daughters because she thinks they need to see that ‘sometimes Mummy cries and it’s OK’. 

Mother-of-two Katie, who blogs under Katie&Baby, admitted she has been crying ‘almost every day at the moment’, while Ali, who blogs using the handle Im.Winging.It.Too, said: ‘I sometimes walk to the end of the garden and have a cry, but to be honest if I get really frustrated or really angry, I burst into tears.’

She added that she sometimes feels sad that she doesn’t know what her son, who has additional needs, is thinking or how she can help him. 

And Samantha Claire Ellison, 35, from the north west of England, who struggles with a chronic illness, said she is currently plagued by feelings that she’s ‘not good enough’. She believes it’s OK to cry in front of her two sons because it teaches them that it’s good to show your emotions.

Holly Matthews, who lost her husband to brain cancer in 2017, told how she prefers to cry in front of her two daughters because she thinks they need to see that ‘sometimes Mummy cries and it’s OK’


Samantha Claire Ellison (left), who struggles with a chronic illness, said she is currently plagued by feelings that she’s ‘not good enough’, while Ali, right, who blogs using the handle Im.Winging.It.Too, said: ‘I sometimes walk to the end of the garden and have a cry, but to be honest if I get really frustrated or really angry, I burst into tears’

A mother-of-three, who blogs under the name The Guilty Mummy, said she struggles with loneliness, despite always having her children around her.

‘To say that I feel lonely doesn’t really make sense. It kind of contradicts myself because I’ve always got three little people with me, but I feel so isolated sometimes and it’s really, really tough,’ she admitted.

‘Feeling lonely and claustrophobic all in one go, it’s just the strangest feeling, but you’re in a house, you’re on your own, you’ve got your kids running wild.’

The video also addresses the guilt many mothers experience, especially if they’re feeling ‘touched out’ – an intense feeling of wanting your personal space back and being alone to go back to ‘being you for a bit’.

A mother-of-three, who blogs under the name The Guilty Mummy (pictured), said she struggles with loneliness, despite always having her children around her

Charlotte explained: ‘The guilt is unreal but it’s OK, it’s normal, it really is.’

The video concluded with the women revealing what cheers them up and gives them a boost, from a hot bath to a large glass of wine or a G&T. 

Siobhan Freegard, founder of ChannelMum.com, told FEMAIL: ‘Four in five of us feel under pressure to be the perfect mum but almost half of us are in tears every day – so something is going very wrong with modern motherhood.

‘Becoming a parent unleashes a maelstrom of emotions and these are even more intense under lockdown. 


Mother-of-two Jessica Louise Ashe (left) said there have been a few occasions where she has been surrounded by people and she’s still felt lonely, while blogger and mother-of-two Katie (right) admitted she has been crying ‘almost every day at the moment’

‘Being with our families around the clock means we’re expected to be carers, teachers, cleaners, counsellors, chefs, entertainers, employees, wives and partners, which leaves no space to actually be ourselves.

‘We need to accept that there’s no need to be the perfect parent. Being a “good enough” one is more than enough.’

Watch the video and leave your comments about how you’re feeling on the Channel Mum YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TwXWZbrT7DU 

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